I want to spoil my child as much as possible, but I also want her to understand the constraints of the real world and society so she can survive and adapt. How do we decide when to compromise? I’ve come up with a good way to figure this out.
Recent observations of my daughter revealed a truth: Tears and laughter cannot offset each other, just as sugar cannot dilute salt. When a child cries, parents shouldn't crudely distract them with forced laughter, but rather address the root cause of their distress.
In the morning, as I accompanied my wife to the rail station, I couldn’t help but think about the repeated struggles I’ve had with saying goodbye to my daughter. Then, by chance, I remembered a phrase I had heard before but never understood. In that moment, it clicked, and I suddenly realized what I needed to do.
Recently, by observing how my friends and family communicate, I suddenly realized that I used to have two very annoying communication habits as a child. What’s frightening is that these habits, while seemingly harmless on the surface, actually reveal deeper psychological issues—a mix of arrogance and insecurity. Today, I want to analyze these habits, reflect on them, and hopefully inspire you to recognize and overcome similar tendencies.
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